Dealing with Loneliness

When yellow caution tape wrapped around the parks, and Trump told us to stay home, I felt like a caged rat. Someone’s pet. A dog. Or a snake stuck in a mason jar.

Stuck in a weird world, I hated the mandate—STAY. HOME. IT’S. SAFER.

Listen, Mr. President — I work from home. Meet clients on Zoom. Mostly cook and eat at home. Talk to family and friends on the phone, at home.

You’re saying stepping outside my front door—with the homemade S wreath on it—was unsafe, unless I went to the grocery store, doctor's office, or walked the dog. Wow, I don’t believe that.

We live in the land of the FREE, and this was torture.

I started to feel upset and lonely. Our wedding and tropical honeymoon got booted. Easter and Christmas got cancelled. How would we get through this?

We ate.

Then, ate some more.

From brownies and ice cream to chips, we temporarily satisfied our souls. Beneath the sugar highs, something was missing. I craved face-to-face connection. I wished to gather the neighbors on our lawn and pretend to be normal. I’m sure it was lonely for a lot of us.

When we focus on what’s missing, we go down a dark hole of sadness. It's easy to get stuck there.

Yet when we refocus on what’s here and now, our moods tend to lift. It’s easier to see miracles and blessings in between the next Zoom call. The next time you feel lonely:

Act like a child.

Don’t throw a tantrum, turn on your sense of wonder.

EFT Master, Patricia Carrington shares her exercise for loneliness. She says instead of filling up painful and restless moments with eating while watching TV, spend time seeing your world with renewed childlike wonder and learn to enjoy solitude. (Source: EFT Universe)

There are many gifts to solitude:

• Stillness

• Peace of mind

• Space to create

• Gratitude for the little things

When you stop and think, there are A LOT of things to be grateful for.